Feasting, Fasting by Anita Desai (Vintage)

Feasting, Fasting is a novel by Indian writer Anita Desai. It is the story of complex family relations. The story is told in two parts. The first part deals with the family living in a rural town in India. The second part of the book is about the son of the family trying to make his way through life as a university student in Boston, Massachusetts. 

The first part focuses on the eldest daughter, referred to as Uma throughout the book. Her father has sent her to a convent school and although she tries as hard as she can, she has been held back for two years already. Uma also has a younger sister named Aruna. Then, the mother gives birth to a son.

Suddenly, the family’s focus is on the first son. Uma’s mother tells her there is no need for her to go to school anymore. She needs to stay home and help care for her younger brother, Arun. 

Arun is treated like a king. He gets the best meals, the largest portion, the best cuts of meat which he would rather not eat. He gets the attention of his parents wno continue to treat their eldest daughter more as a servant than a family member. The father is determined to have his son study at a university in the United States. However, it wasn’t the parents who did all the things for Arun, they made all their demands on the eldest daughter. 

After the father retires from work, Uma’s parents are very demanding of her. Uma thinks of them as MamandPapa, MamaPapa, PapaMama. For her, “it was hard to believe they had ever had separate exsitences”. Before she could finish one chore, she was always asked to do another. 

The parents try to marry off Uma on three different occasions. The first man told the family he was more interested in Uma’s younger sister. The second time, the father accepts a proposal from a family for Uma only to learn that the family has spent the dowry given to them but has also canceled the engagement. The third, Uma is married but the father finds out that the man was already married and had a family in another town and used the dowry to help his ailing business. 

It may be a big cultural difference but Uma’s family and those who live in her village have old-fashioned ideas and believe in tradition. Girls are raised to be married off and boys are to be given the best education possible. 

Instead of blaming themselves for their short-sightedness, everything seems to be Uma’s fault. They become even more demanding of her. As some with Western ideals, the parent’s treatment of their eldest daughter borders on child abuse or negligence. Uma comes off very timid and doesn’t seem to have a mind of her own. We know she does but she is not assertive enough to defy her parents. 

For the latter half of the book, we travel to the U.S. Arun is studying in Massachusetts but he is having as much difficulty as Uma had at home. He wants to spend his time in the U.S. in anonymity. Coming to the U.S., he “at last experienced total freedom of anonymity, the total absence of relations, of demands, of requests, ties, responsibilities, committments”. He was just Arun, “he had no past, no family, no country”. And he prefers to keep it that way. 

Desai’s prose does make for easy reading and the book is beautifully written. However, there really seems to be no coherent plot. The story consists of a series of events depicting ordinary life in a fictional Indian family.  However, I found the family to be the epitome of a stereotypical Indian family that seems to verge on the comical. It would be laughable if the parents weren’t so despicable to their eldest daughter. To be honest, I was exhausted after reading this novel. I wanted to smack Uma’s parents into the twenty-first century, but that just may be my American upbringing. ~Ernie Hoyt